Comments on: Life is for Living…

By: Thomas

Thomas — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 14:26:36 +0000

I think we have to blame the society in which we live a culprit to the persuit of money and material things, i see this more in kerala communities than the other indian communities, this is because of our high literacy and also the social stigma….if u don’t own a car, a house and a big salary you are nobody…..! I don’t blame anyone for becoming a monster…..!! but you have a choice ….and you need backbone to make the choice and stick by it….!! My fathers generation was better off than the present….i mean before this gulf boom so to speak started happening, people then just wanted a job form 9.00 to 4.00 and the rest will come , but the gulf greed….is not a healthy one….!

By: amine

amine — Wed, 14 Dec 2005 10:09:46 +0000

nice post…

like the monk who sold his ferrari??

By: Paresh

Paresh — Tue, 13 Dec 2005 17:58:50 +0000

Pragmatism! Not everybody can be as evolved and insightful as you are. Most people live their lives on ‘Trail & Error’ basis. By the time we realize our errors it may be very late but we’re destined to go through that cycle.

By: Alexis Leon

Alexis Leon — Mon, 12 Dec 2005 14:59:36 +0000

Silverine: “Cars and house and money do not make a relation.” You have summed it up nicely. Thanks.

Ashok: You should have a goal of where you want to be and what you want to achieve. But whatever you do should not be at the cost of things that are more important. Professional success is important. But there is a lot of difference between success and greed.

Geo: I wish you all the best… and with your ability to make the bug fixes and run the build manager sitting in the cafeteria, it should be a breeze:-)

Chackochen: Very true.

Anu: Your profession is different doc. But there also if you manage your time well you can spend a few hours of quality time with your family. That is all they need—the assurance and proof that you care. In your profession, striking the right balance between the professional and personal lives is slightly more difficult; but it definitely is possible. But I am very sad to say that many members of your profession are greedy and insensitive; they lack compassion. All they care about is money (measured by the number of patients they see each day, the number of surgeries they perform and so on…). But I know many good doctors, who are among the very best in their field, having happy, successful and satisfying family lives. I think you should read the article Putting ‘Life’ Back into Your Professional Life which can be found at http://www.aafp.org/fpm/990600fm/36.html. It is the site of American Academy of Family Physicians. The site contains about a dozen articles on life balance. Check it out.

By: anu

anu — Mon, 12 Dec 2005 12:51:03 +0000

hmmm… true… u have to focus on the things that matter..
but sometimes u r so involved in some things.. and it is very easy to lose in touch.. iv seen it i happen to many people in my profession.. but if u have to make it really good in ur profession u have to compromise on the time u spend with ur family..
ya quality time with the ones u love.. and some time for urself is very imp.. but difficult sometimes..

By: Chacko

Chacko — Mon, 12 Dec 2005 12:41:55 +0000

Yes there are lot of people who doesnt care about family when it comes about money and career.

Gulf is a best example… there is lot of people who have taken long leave/resigned, to move to gulf and work here… they dont care wether the kids are missing their father… these people come here with an aim of making some quick buks … but what happens is that most of them get settled here leaving the wife and kids back in kerala……

By: Geo

Geo — Mon, 12 Dec 2005 09:40:26 +0000

So true…

I have seen a number of technocrats like the one you have mentioned. Some of them spend their days and nights in the office. Others travel abroad most of the time, leaving their wives behind. I pity their wives and kids. I wonder what their family life is like.

Hope I will be able to tilt the balance towards my family rather than the other way around.

By: ashok

ashok — Mon, 12 Dec 2005 08:06:07 +0000

i am a final year b tech student. some of my colleagues seem to be destined to take the route ur friend has chosen, viz. one of climbing up the dollar ladder.
my view is that, money is supposed to help one become happy. apparently it seems to do the opposite function. being content with what one has, must the key to happiness. and one mustn’t try to control one’s life too much. let it flow where it wants. just give the rudder a few nudges when needed. please feel free to correct my views.

By: silverine

silverine — Sun, 11 Dec 2005 13:03:06 +0000

This is so true. I have met such a man, my friend’s Dad who was the same. My friend grew up without her Dad beacuse of his constant pursuit for a better deal. One fine day he realised that his kids hardly knew him and treated him like a stranger. They treated his sudden presence in their lives after retirement as meddling. He still grumbles when I visit him that kids dont care. I feel like asking him, what he did to make them care?

Cars and house and money do not make a relation.

Lovely post.