Comments on: Guarantees…

By: Alexis Leon

Alexis Leon — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 13:55:50 +0000

starry nights: Thanks Lalitha. You are right. Parents should only act as guides, helping the children in making important decisions about their lives. I also wish you and your family a happy, healthy and prosperous 2009. Ramesh : Thanks Ramesh. I completely agree with you. Vee: Thanks buddy. And thanks for the link to Subroto Bagchi’s article. It was a nice one. Jothish : Thanks Jothish. And a happy 2009 to you and yours. Ravi: Thanks and wishing you the same. S : Faith should be ideally unconditional. But as human beings, we have limitations. So one should do what one is capable of. So the degree of faith one has will vary from person to person. Thulasy Mary Elizabeth: Thanks and a very happy 2009 to you too. Kesi : Thanks Kesi. The mentality of the parents is changing but very slowly. Many parents still try to ‘manage’ their children’s careers and lives. Rachel : Nice that your mom had faith in you. If she had not let you sort out the problems yourself, you would have ended up hating Maths. What really matters is faith in God and using the talent God has given us. I completely agree with you. And a wonderful 2009 to you.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 22:31:03 +0000

Hi Alexis, this subject on education is something I’ve thot over for many years myself.

I had difficulty learning during school days, I was mediocre and good only in Maths. By the Grace of God my mother never forced me to study. I chose the simple way of education .. the only way I knew to study… I did my BSc Maths. God Will Make A Way was the lesson my mother taught me. During my BSc years, I started scoring well in class and gained confidence. And finally after 3 years I topped my class. All thru I put my faith in God. That was 7 years back. And my stepping stone.

Today, I’ve spent 3 yrs working in Singapore for an American bank. Often People ask me wht I studied to get the job.

Wht I studied really doesn’t matter, wht really matters is faith in God and using the talent God has given us.

I really hope tht father gives his son the freedom to grow. I hope the son puts his faith in God and polishes his God given skills.

Thanks for the post.

Merry Christmas and A Happy New Year to You.

Rachel

By: Kesi

Kesi — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 02:17:27 +0000

Merry Christmas Alexis.
I am happy that you addressed this issue of the ‘indian parent mentality’ that the only professions that exist are that of the doctor and the engineer…
kesi

By: Thulasy Mary Elizabeth

Thulasy Mary Elizabeth — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 01:42:43 +0000

Hi Alexis,

Nice post and good to see you back in blogging.Merry X’mas and Happy New Year.

By: S

Thu, 25 Dec 2008 15:41:29 +0000

Every moment in life is an act of faith.” (Paulo Coelho, Brida)

I think the basic problem is lack of self-confidence and faith—faith in oneself and faith in God.

Isn’t it ironic that while most of us would profess our unwavering faith in a Higher Power vehemently; this faith is conditional! Conditional on how accommodating this Higher Power is willing to be.
In the case of your neighbour, I’m sure he has stormed the Heavens for “better sense” to prevail upon his son and when none was forthcoming, has decided to play God himself and plan the course of his son’s life!!! Pity both the father and son.

By: Ravi

Ravi — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 03:21:55 +0000

Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year !

This is a very good post.

By: Jothish

Jothish — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 08:54:42 +0000

Dear Alexis, was wondering where you have been all this time. Haven’t read your post for a long time.
Nice to see you back.
Here’s wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

By: Vee

Vee — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 04:28:22 +0000

Excellent post, Alexis !! You are very much an inspiration to me and many others around…So do keep writing…
What you have said about seeking assurances is right..I do it any time..perceived fears about future is a trait that bothers many people..even those with having sophisticated reasoning and financial security..

subroto Bagchi of mindtree has written a nice article on this.
http://mailinbox.blogspot.com/2008/07/fallen-tomato-cart-by-subroto-bagchi.html

By: Ramesh

Ramesh — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 06:41:42 +0000

Great post. Children should be left to follow their dreams and not their parents. If Bill Gates and Steve Job had not had the courage to drop out of college to follow their dreams, then Microsoft and Apple would not have happened. So parents can give their children the support and encouragement to follow their dreams and if they fail trying give a helping hand to get up and try again.

Regarding parents who don’t want have children because of the fear of not having a ‘normal’ baby, they don’t know what they are missing. And what they are not realizing is that no one is perfect. And parenthood is wonderful and there are many who want to have children but can have.

Yes, everything in life involves some amount of risk. If are risk averse, you don’t live, you just exist.

Happy Xmas to you Alexis

By: starry nights

starry nights — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 06:04:27 +0000

A very though provoking post alex.It is really sad the way parents feel sometimes towards their children.Yes there are so many other jobs out there and it is so true you will excel if you love the subject and you will be good at your job too.Parents can help their chldren in their decision but they should not be deciding for them.Sometimes parents are trying to realize their own dreams through their children.

Wishing you and your family a merry christmas and a happy new year.