Comments on: When you are feeling sad… http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html Alexis Leon's weblog Sat, 30 Jan 2010 17:58:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Alexis Leon http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2403 Alexis Leon Fri, 10 Apr 2009 06:00:32 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2403 <b>Usha</b>: Welcome to my blog. I wish you a happy Easter and Vishu. Usha: Welcome to my blog. I wish you a happy Easter and Vishu.

]]> By: usha http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2389 usha Mon, 06 Apr 2009 12:59:49 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2389 i am just going thru one of those phases and was trying to bloghop away my blues, wondering whether an evening stroll would help me pull myself out of it.. and then i bump into this post. Thanks for writing! i am just going thru one of those phases and was trying to bloghop away my blues, wondering whether an evening stroll would help me pull myself out of it.. and then i bump into this post. Thanks for writing!

]]> By: S http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2388 S Mon, 06 Apr 2009 07:12:51 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2388 Aw Gawsh!! You're too kind! I thank you most humbly! Je suis tres impressed avec votre francais!!! Aw Gawsh!! You’re too kind! I thank you most humbly!
Je suis tres impressed avec votre francais!!!

]]> By: Alexis Leon http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2384 Alexis Leon Thu, 02 Apr 2009 14:55:59 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2384 <b>S</b>: I completely agree with you mon ami :-) Your perspective on life is very unique and refreshing, especially in this age of pessimism and despair. I relate with the idea of wallowing in self pity for short periods of time and then completely forgetting about the problem after gaining a clearer insight. Je vraiment apprécie vos commentaires sur mon blog et attends avec intérêt de lire plus de elles. S: I completely agree with you mon ami :-) Your perspective on life is very unique and refreshing, especially in this age of pessimism and despair. I relate with the idea of wallowing in self pity for short periods of time and then completely forgetting about the problem after gaining a clearer insight. Je vraiment apprécie vos commentaires sur mon blog et attends avec intérêt de lire plus de elles.

]]> By: S http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2383 S Thu, 02 Apr 2009 09:55:29 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2383 I concur. I subscribe to what a very wise person once said,” By all means spend some time on the pity pot; but once done, don’t forget to flush!” I do feel all the better for wallowing in self pity once in a while for not more than 5 mins but beyond that find the depressing state of mind a little too depressing to sustain!!! Totally corny I know but I’m sure you’ll know what I mean!!! Having said that, I appreciate that full fledged clinical depression takes a lot more than counting one’s blessing to move out of. I concur. I subscribe to what a very wise person once said,” By all means spend some time on the pity pot; but once done, don’t forget to flush!” I do feel all the better for wallowing in self pity once in a while for not more than 5 mins but beyond that find the depressing state of mind a little too depressing to sustain!!! Totally corny I know but I’m sure you’ll know what I mean!!!
Having said that, I appreciate that full fledged clinical depression takes a lot more than counting one’s blessing to move out of.

]]> By: kunjootty http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2382 kunjootty Wed, 01 Apr 2009 06:37:18 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2382 hmm.. can understand the reason for your bad mood now... i would either have totally ignored his rants or given that guy a piece of my mind. with the economy setback we are going through now, i think India is doing much better than some other countries. feel really sad when i heard about some of my american teammates who were laid off at the very first drop of the pin, even though they have been working at the company for more than 10 years and so on. hope the situation improves fast!! hmm.. can understand the reason for your bad mood now… i would either have totally ignored his rants or given that guy a piece of my mind.
with the economy setback we are going through now, i think India is doing much better than some other countries. feel really sad when i heard about some of my american teammates who were laid off at the very first drop of the pin, even though they have been working at the company for more than 10 years and so on. hope the situation improves fast!!

]]> By: Dhanush Gopinath http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2381 Dhanush Gopinath Wed, 01 Apr 2009 05:37:28 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2381 @Alexis - Its reduced these days, planned for an all Kerala trip in monsoon last year, but had to stop in mid way. Read about it here (http://chall-dhanno.blogspot.com/2008/08/finding-kerala-and-facing-monsoon.html) and here (http://chall-dhanno.blogspot.com/2008/08/not-finding-kerala-and-facing-monsoon.html) Plus work has increased a lot more these days. Theorem ;) I have been always good at maths. @Alexis – Its reduced these days, planned for an all Kerala trip in monsoon last year, but had to stop in mid way. Read about it here (http://chall-dhanno.blogspot.com/2008/08/finding-kerala-and-facing-monsoon.html) and here (http://chall-dhanno.blogspot.com/2008/08/not-finding-kerala-and-facing-monsoon.html)

Plus work has increased a lot more these days. Theorem ;) I have been always good at maths.

]]> By: Alexis Leon http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2380 Alexis Leon Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:02:07 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2380 <b>kunjootty </b>: Thanks Kunjooty. This is something I wanted to write about quite some time. But yesterday, I had to hear a friend telling me how unfair life is and while others get everything on a platter he has to toil. All this ranting was because he didn’t get the increment he was expecting. I told him he was lucky to have a job, many professionals, who are equally good, have lost their jobs. That conversation triggered this post ;-) <b>Dhanush </b>: Nice to see you buddy. Hope things are fine and you are still going for rides on the Tbird. I really liked your theorem :-) <b>hammy </b>: You totally missed the point. What I wrote was that when there are many people who are struggling and going ahead with their lives without complaining, one does not have the right to get depressed or feel bad over trivial issues. Being better off than a large chunk of people is good; the self awareness is also good. Because if one is aware of that, then as you have said it “makes you more empathetic, and channels way for human emotions and a sense of bonding.” I never have said that one should feel happy, because there are others worse than you. All I said is that when you feel depressed or bad, when you feel life is not fair, think about the thousands for whom life is harder. It is not to make you happy. It is to make you realize how fortunate you are. When you know how fortunate you are, you will be able to appreciate what you have and strive harder to become better. Getting depressed and feeling bad is normal as I have mentioned in the beginning of the post. Believe me, I have been there several times and have handled depression as best as I can. Sometimes you know the cause of the depression, but you can’t do much about it. You may be able to handle it. But there is no solution for it. In such cases, when you think of the people who fight the adversities, give you strength and courage to move on. <b>Anjali </b>: Thanks Anju. It is nice to be back. Hope I will me more regular this year. I am still catching up with the old posts of my blogpals. Some of your posts made me ROTFL. <b>Dhanya </b>: Thanks Dhanya :-) kunjootty : Thanks Kunjooty. This is something I wanted to write about quite some time. But yesterday, I had to hear a friend telling me how unfair life is and while others get everything on a platter he has to toil. All this ranting was because he didn’t get the increment he was expecting. I told him he was lucky to have a job, many professionals, who are equally good, have lost their jobs. That conversation triggered this post ;-)
Dhanush : Nice to see you buddy. Hope things are fine and you are still going for rides on the Tbird. I really liked your theorem :-)
hammy : You totally missed the point. What I wrote was that when there are many people who are struggling and going ahead with their lives without complaining, one does not have the right to get depressed or feel bad over trivial issues.
Being better off than a large chunk of people is good; the self awareness is also good. Because if one is aware of that, then as you have said it “makes you more empathetic, and channels way for human emotions and a sense of bonding.”
I never have said that one should feel happy, because there are others worse than you. All I said is that when you feel depressed or bad, when you feel life is not fair, think about the thousands for whom life is harder. It is not to make you happy. It is to make you realize how fortunate you are. When you know how fortunate you are, you will be able to appreciate what you have and strive harder to become better.
Getting depressed and feeling bad is normal as I have mentioned in the beginning of the post. Believe me, I have been there several times and have handled depression as best as I can.
Sometimes you know the cause of the depression, but you can’t do much about it. You may be able to handle it. But there is no solution for it. In such cases, when you think of the people who fight the adversities, give you strength and courage to move on.
Anjali : Thanks Anju. It is nice to be back. Hope I will me more regular this year. I am still catching up with the old posts of my blogpals. Some of your posts made me ROTFL.
Dhanya : Thanks Dhanya :-)

]]> By: Dhanya http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2379 Dhanya Tue, 31 Mar 2009 14:27:38 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2379 Well said and if you don't know you are a continued source of inspiration for many people around. Some you know and some you don't know at all :) Well said and if you don’t know you are a continued source of inspiration for many people around. Some you know and some you don’t know at all :)

]]> By: Anjali http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/2009/03/31/when-you-are-feeling-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-2378 Anjali Tue, 31 Mar 2009 12:37:06 +0000 http://www.alexisleon.com/ros/?p=171#comment-2378 Thats exactly what I do and then I feel so relived that I don't have bigger problems! Nice to see you blogging again! :) Thats exactly what I do and then I feel so relived that I don’t have bigger problems! Nice to see you blogging again! :)

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